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Human beings tend to regard the conventions of their own societies as natural, often as sacred.

Mary Catherine Bateson

A disgruntled reflection on my own life as a sort of desperate improvisation in which I was constantly trying to make something coherent from conflicting elements to fit rapidly changing settings.
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Conflict Desperate Element Improvisation Reflection
In many ways, constancy is an illusion.
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Constant Illusion
The capacity to combine commitment with skepticism is essential to democracy.
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Capacity Commitment Democracy Essential
Fear is not a good teacher. The lessons of fear are quickly forgotten.
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Fear Forget Goodness Philosophy Teacher Wisdom
As you get up in the morning, as you make decisions, as you spend money, make friends, make commitments, you are creating a piece of art called your life.
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Commitment Decision Life Morning People Pieces Yourself
The human species thinks in metaphors and learns through stories.
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Human Learning Metaphor Species Story Thinking
Most higher education is devoted to affirming the traditions and origins of an existing elite and transmitting them to new members.
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Affirmation Education Existing Member Tradition
Worlds can be found by a child and an adult bending down and looking together under the grass stems or at the skittering crabs in a tidal pool.
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Children Finding Togetherness World
Human beings do not eat nutrients, they eat food.
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Eat Food Human
The critical question about regret is whether experience led to growth and new learning. Some people seem to keep on making the same mistakes, while others at least make new ones. Regret and remorse can be either paralyzing or inspiring.
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Criticism Growth Mistake Oneself Question Regret
Insight, I believe, refers to the depth of understanding that comes by setting experiences, yours and mine, familiar and exotic, new and old, side by side, learning by letting them speak to one another.
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Believe Learning Myself Talk Understand
As we age we have not only to readdress earlier developmental crises but also somehow to find the way to three affirmations that may seem to conflict. … We have to affirm our own life. We have to affirm our own death. And we have to affirm love, both given and received.
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Address Affirmation Conflict Development Early Finding Ourselves
When parents die, all of the partings of the past are reevoked with the realization that this time they will not return.
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Death Parents Realization Return Time
There are few things as toxic as a bad metaphor. You can’t think without metaphors.
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Bad Metaphor Toxic Yourself
What would it be like to have not only color vision but culture vision, the ability to see the multiple worlds of others.
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Ability Color Culture Vision World
Caring can be learned by all human beings, can be worked into the design of every life, meeting an individual need as well as a pervasive need in society.
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Care Design Human Learning Need Society Work