In a study we did of bereavement, we found that rather impressive numbers of widows and widowers had not simply gone back to their pre-loss functioning, but grown.
IRVIN D. YALOMThe act of revealing oneself fully to another and still being accepted may be the major vehicle of therapeutic help.
More Irvin D. Yalom Quotes
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Mature love is loving, not being loved.
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To the extent that one is responsible for one’s life, one is alone.
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Though the physicality of death destroys us, the idea of death may save us.
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Some have expressed the very opposite feeling–the fear that they would not be interesting enough to write about.
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Were not teaching our students the importance of relationships with other people: how you work with them, what the relational pathology consists of, how you examine your own conscience, how you examine the inner world, how you examine your dreams.
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A free man who lives among the ignorant strives as far as he can to avoid their favors. A free man acts honestly, not deceptively.
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Life is a spark between two identical voids, the darkness before birth and the one after death.
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Death anxiety is the mother of all religions, which, in one way or another, attempt to temper the anguish of our finitude.
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Only the wounded healer can truly heal. (97)
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When we have forgotten ourselves and become absorbed in someone (or something) outside ourselves
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Specialness as a primary mode of death transcendence takes a number of other maladaptive forms.
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If we climb high enough, we will reach a height from which tragedy ceases to look tragic.
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If one is to love oneself one must behave in ways that one can admire.
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All these things I’ve written so much about. That’s why I’ve made such a practice really, over and over to hammer home the point of self-revelation and being more of yourself and showing yourself. Every book I write I want to get that in there.
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Some day soon, perhaps in forty years, there will be no one alive who has ever known me. That’s when I will be truly dead – when I exist in no one’s memory.
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