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When truth presents itself, the wise person see the light, takes it in, and makes adjustments. The fool tries to adjust the truth so he does not have to adjust to it.

Henry Cloud

We change our behavior when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of changing. Consequences give us the pain that motivates us to change.
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Behavior Change Motivational Ourselves Pain
Dating is a give and take. If you only see it as “Taking,” you are not getting it.
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Date Equality Yourself
To rescue people from the natural consequences of their behavior is to render them powerless.
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Consequence Natural People Power Rescue
Good pain is pain in the service of a purpose. Bad pain is pain endured because we are resisting a needed growth step.
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Endurance Goodness Growth Pain Resistance
There’s no better way to become a disintegrated character than to be your own authority.
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The physicality of a real relationship – one that encompasses mind, body and soul – ultimately makes it more fulfilling and powerful than any virtual relationship ever could be.
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Fulfill Power Reality Relationship Virtual
Endings are a part of life, and we are actually wired to execute them. But because of trauma, developmental failures, and other reasons, we shy away from the steps that could open up whole new worlds of development and growth.
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Whatever’s happening today, remember it is only ONE SCENE in a long movie. Don’t treat it like it’s the whole story. Keep writing the story.
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We have our own thoughts, and if we want others to know them, we must tell them.
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Ourselves Talk Thinking
The fool tries to adjust the truth so he does not have to adjust to it.
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Adjust Fools Himself Truth
Independence is not an option for us. Remember, God existed without us.
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We need rest not just so we feel better. We need rest for actual creation of what we’re going to need the next day.
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Better Creation Day Feeling Need
One of the worst things you can die with is potential.
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Death Oneself Potential Worst
To get greater than 100% return on a growth step, give up defensiveness. Defensiveness stifles performance, and destroys relationships.
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Destroy Greatness Performance Relationship Return
Leave your pride, ego, and narcissism somewhere else. Reactions from those parts of you will reinforce your children’s most primitive fears.
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Children Fear Leave Pride Reaction Yourself
Love can only exist where freedom and responsibility are operating.
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Existence Freedom Love Operation Responsibility
Diligence is not easy, but we can’t reach our goals without it.
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Just as we leave the effects of our work behind in results, we leave the effects of our interactions with people in their hearts, minds, and souls.
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You have to be able to face losing some things you might want in order to be free to do the right thing.
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Face Freedom Lose Order Right
You aren’t alive if you aren’t in need.
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The business of church is ultimately people. You’re trying to heal people, grow people, teach people, and mend people. And when leaders spend all of their time helping and growing other people, they ignore their own growth.
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Spouses in healthy relationships cherish each other’s space and are champions of each other’s causes.
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Champion Each Other Health Partner Relationship
For someone’s character to grow, it has to be free from internal attack. Falling down never stopped children from developing. But getting yelled at, criticized, and put down can stop them for life.
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Character Children Criticism Freedom Growth Life Stop
In the end, as a leader, you are always going to get a combination of two things: what you create and what you allow.
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It is true that you get what you tolerate.
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Tolerate True Yourself
The mature person meets the demands of life, while the immature person demands that life meet her demands.
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Demand Life Mature Person
Boundaries are basically about providing structure, and structure is essential in building anything that thrives.
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Boundary Essential Structure Thrive

When truth presents itself, the wise person see the light, takes it in, and makes adjustments. The fool tries to adjust the truth so he does not have to adjust to it.

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When truth presents itself, the wise person see the light, takes it in, and makes adjustments. The fool tries to adjust the truth so he does not have to adjust to it.

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