One thing you discover in psychoanalytic treatment is the limits of what you can change about yourself or your life.
ADAM PHILLIPSSanity, as the project of keeping ourselves recognizably human, therefore has to limit the range of human experience.
More Adam Phillips Quotes
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There is always a ..belief that by destroying the thing that we love we destroy our needs
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To keep faith with recognition we have to stay recognizable.
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I am always true to myself, that is the problem. Who else could I be true to?
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It is as if to say: if these are not valued – if these forms of wanting and feeling and speaking and doing – are not cultivated and encouraged and rewarded in the child, then the child will be mad.
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The child can find out what the object ..might be only by finding ..obstacles to its access
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The child..will try to make himself..independent of other people. .
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The big secret about Art is that no one wants it to be true.
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There is nothing more scandalous than a happy marriage
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You write to find out what you believe.
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Monogamy is a way of getting the versions of ourselves down to the minimum.
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The child [uses] ‘doubt about food to hide doubt about love.’
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The whole notion of sanity may be an attempt to medicalize morality – to speak of the good in the language of health: to make us more accurate, more scientific in our wanting – but by the same token it becomes a form of moral blackmail.
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Tragic heroes are failed pragmatists. Their ends are unrealistic and their means are impractical.
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Transgression is a quest for solitude
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We have been taught to wish for it, but the wish to be understood may be our most vengeful demand, may be the way we hang on, as adults ,
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